Goal Setting, Gourmet Meals, and Intention
Last week I was having a conversation with a dear friend. We were talking about goals and the importance of maintaining certain attributes in order to fulfill certain objectives.
Confession: The rebel in me does NOT like setting goals when I am told to do so.
Every year we have to do this at work, and every year, my spirit feels like its confined to a little box stamped “Standards and Benchmarks.”
“You know, I am going to start a ‘To Be’ list, rather than a ‘To Do’ list.” I suggested. I continued, “I am going to get my kids (5th
graders) to do the same. In order to complete a task they might need to be patient. And then they can write a word at the top of the page. Patient. I think that being a certain way allows you to flourish while doing a certain thing makes you good at doing a certain thing.”
A nugget; a little epiphany. I felt as though I had cracked the Da Vinci Code.
And then I saw a status update on Facebook: A To Do list is nothing without a To Be list. Gazelle Animalia
“Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous.” ~ Albert Einstein
I remember Kiersten Mooney at the Yoga Journal Conference back in 2011. She said, “Do less. Be more.” At the time, I recall thinking, yes, be more. Be more.
And I jotted the phrase down in my butterfly journal. “Do less, Be more!” And that was that. I would just “be more.” I became more vocal with people about confrontational topics. I found myself teaching yoga to teachers at the school, and trying to set an example. I even felt more knowledgeable and more skilled. And I tried to be more, and more, and more, until finally, I didn’t really know what it meant anymore. Until finally, being more, started to mean less.
My being, lacked connection, and awareness. Being more without intention is like preparing a gourmet meal with no one to feed.
At the beginning of every yoga practice, I set a personal intention for the class. And it works. If my intention is to have fun, I do. If it’s to try something new, I do. If it’s to speak clearly, I do.
Being intentional works.
Whether it be a “to be” list, or a note to self, a post-it on your mirror, a conversation, or the start of a personal journey into the creation of who you are, be