Does it ever get easier??

Do you ever notice that after you've been working on something--be it a new challenge pose, a project, or a part of yourself--that once you think you've mastered it, something else comes up in its place almost immediately? You master forerarm stand, then your teacher tries to get you to go to full scorpion. You finally finish painting your bedroom, only to discover that you now need to paint the adjoining bathroom to accent it. You complete a project at work, and you get asked to take on another that's even bigger than the first. Once you commit yourself to doing the work of transformation, this is what inevitably happens--you are constantly given opportunities to transform! That's great right? Isn't that what we always say we are dedicated to? We want to always be searching, growing, moving forward. We aim to become more aligned with our highest selves at every opportunity. But let's be honest here: transformation is exhausting sometimes! True growth only comes from being uncomfortable. We don't change if we aren't challenged. Therefore, in order to be fully committed to expansion and growth, we are also fully committed to living uncomfortably. I know that in my life, it took me a long time to accept this discomfort. I wanted to go through a period of change and then have that be it.  I wanted a few months of inquiry, change a few habits, have a few difficult conversations, then be a totally new me. I was terrified when I started to realize how much work there was that I could actually do to better myself and change. So many of us are in this same place when we first open the door to transformation. We are utterly unprepared for the dramatic shift that our lives undergo, because we see the work of transformation as something with a set beginning and end. In reality, when we commit to that work, we commit ourselves to living a life of constant change and expansion. Rather than a static period in time, it is an ongoing, never-ending process of learning and, inevitably, discomfort. If we are unprepared for this, it can be frustrating. More than that, it can feel daunting--like we have so much work to do, but we'll never have enough time or energy to complete it. Again, I remind you that aligning with your highest self is not a task to be conquered. Once I let go of the notion that I would one day "be transformed" if I checked off the incredibly long (and always multiplying) list of things I needed to change about myself, the work of transformation actually became enjoyable. It's empowering to know that you can live in a way that is constantly challenging and thrive! It's the same in your yoga practice--once you let go of the idea that you can ever fully master a pose, it becomes exciting and fun to see how far you can take your edge each time you step on your mat. To answer my own question--no, the process of transformation never gets easy. If you are going to commit to it, know that you are committed for the long haul. But, also know that you have the power to see the excitement and power that comes from living at your edge. Take off the pressure to "complete" a transformation, and ride the rush of the unknown, and  embrace the thrill of overcoming new challenges and obstacles at every turn.

Transformatio is an endless process

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Beautiful post and much needed. I get stuck in this cycle often, I get a lot of satisfaction from checking things off the list, but it also brings me an incredible amount of stress. Because, as you’ve said for the important things, like transformation, you’re never done with the list. I am working on hard on letting go of the expectation of mastery and finishing – life truly is in the journey and I am working to learn to enjoy and focus on each step.

Lindsey on April 24, 2015

There’s a quote I love, and I am not sure who said it first, but it goes, “it doesn’t get easier, you just get stronger.” Reason enough to face forward, even when the wind in in your face. Thanks for sharing

Diane Clement on April 24, 2015

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